Mentoring-Do’s and Don’ts

 

Mentoring roles

 

·        Sounding board

·        Problem solver

·        Referee

·        Flaw finder

·        Empathiser

·        Coach

·        Networker

·        Mirror

·        Confidant

 

 

 

Do’s

Don’ts

Listen carefully

Don’t shy away from giving negative feedback, but avoid being unnecessarily critical

Watch the body language

Don’t overprotect your mentee

Encourage independence-the mentee should not feel obliged to do things the way you do, or follow your advice without question

Don’t abuse your authority as a mentor; recognise that a powerful differential exists

Help with networking

Don’t expect your mentee to defer to you

Be honest with feedback: be direct, constructive, and kind when making observations or suggestions

Don’t use your mentee’s achievements to further your own agenda

Ask for feedback on your own performance

 

Encourage your mentee to be proactive, assertive, and open about his/her needs

 

Maintain confidentiality

 

Make notes that will help maintain the focus of your discussions from one meeting to the next

 

Be a role model at all times, nit just during your mentoring sessions

 

Be aware of your own gender and cultural biases

 

Define limits and stick to them

 

Watch for any signs of emotional distress in your mentee. Everyone experiences stress at some time, either personal or professional. If your mentee is having a tough time, extra support and attention may be required. It may be helpful to discuss stress management strategies before they are actually needed.

 

 

 

 

Bibliography

 

Grainger C:       “Mentoring-supporting doctors at work and play”, BMJ Careers, 29/6/2002, s203-204